“I won, but I don’t feel good about it.” My friend’s words rang in my mind the very next day. No, sometimes “winning” in parenting hardly feels like winning.

She gave me a word of advice that I would never forget. “Do one thing every day that scares you.” I couldn’t have known that she was preparing me for parenthood.

Visits with our family don’t always go as planned. My mind spun with all of the “too’s”… consuming too much sugar, getting too little sleep, and trying to do too much in too little time. It can leave me with too many regrets.

This year, let’s make Mother’s Day different. Let’s make it all about us, but in a very different way.

After all, who has time to pursue God in the midst of crying babies, messy spaces, and husbands vying with children for attention?

I come to this battle armed with phrases like “unfair-mental-load”, “I-never-get-a-break” and “you-just-don’t-understand.” But friends, I have been fighting the wrong enemy.