Why Having An Early Miscarriage Is Anything But Normal

April 10, 2016

  1. Debbie says:

    Thank you for sharing this difficult post, Erin. I’m so very sorry for your loss.
    We lost our baby at 14 weeks gestation. Later, different friends lost their babies at 17 weeks and 20 weeks gestation. I have fought thoughts like “their grief was more acceptable than mine because their babies were older.” The medical community called my baby the “product of conception.” But I held my precious son in my hand. We buried him in the plot next to his grandfather. He was oh-so-much-more than “just” an early lost pregnancy.
    In so many ways there has been blessing from our loss. Our 2 older children have their gaze frequently turned heavenward as they talk about him by name and think about him being with Jesus. They know that when they trust in Jesus, they can be assured they will see their little brother. And they laugh to think that he already knows so much more about true life than they do.
    I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope that you will know peace in the midst of your grief and the refuge that our Savior has promised to be.

    • Eryn Lynum says:

      Thank you so much for sharing Debbie. What a wonderful way for your children to remember their brother. Thank you so much for your encouragement. Jesus is certainly covering us in His peace right now.

  2. Francine says:

    Thank you for posting this. I hope that everyone who has experienced this finds this post.

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  4. Mandy says:

    Thank you so much for sharing. You described every emotion I am going through. I knew for 6 days before I miscarried in Thanksgiving morning. I’m heartbroken and I’m having so many emotions. I’m heartbroken for myself, for my husband and for my son that would have been so excited for a sibling.

    • Eryn Lynum says:

      Oh Mandy, I am so, so sorry for the loss of your child. I am praying for peace for you and your family. I am thankful this post and my story could help in a small way.

  5. Cos says:

    Thank you for this post. We had been trying to fall pregnant for 18 months when we did, then do und out at six weeks we were going to have a miscarriage, which occurred a week later. Even now, nearly four years and two beautiful little girls later it feels sad, though not in the crushing way it was initially. I’ve had people be surprised at the sadness I’ve felt due to how early on it was and struggled with feeling like I was overreacting. This post has been such an encouragement.

    • Eryn Lynum says:

      I am so thankful that this post could encourage you! And I am terribly sorry for your loss. You are very right–the pain remains years later. It is a very real loss. But I am also so thankful for your two girls–what a huge blessing! May God continue to bless and encourage your family and home.

  6. Savannah says:

    Thank you so much for writing this. I’m currently going through a miscarriage. Been praying all day for some words of encouragement. So thankful God sent me here.

  7. Kelly says:

    Thank you so much for this. I needed it so badly. I can’t quite wrap my mind around what I thought we were going to have and now don’t. Thank you for acknowledging and validating all these thoughts and feelings ❤️❤️❤️

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